Friendship can be one of the most important and beneficial gifts that we can ever have,providing those friendships are TRUE friendships.
What do I mean by this?
A true friend, will always support you in any form of personal development that you choose. We all possess the right to evolve and we possess the right to make the decisions that will benefit us in the long term, eve if that means putting our sleeves first. Even if other can misconstrued our choices and determination to evolve and develop as selfish.
Very often after my students have made great progress in achieving their goals and becoming the more confident and essentially happier versions of their former selves, its very unfortunate that their so called friends and members of their social circles become hostile to this new and improved character, even if he is happy!
The change in their friend, is unfamiliar to them, and their friends change forces them to face their VERY OWN lack of change. This consequently can lead to a hostile response, and very often its the female friends of my students who have an issue with this new confident man, who is busier than ever, and is attracting more women than ever before.
`They will inflict statements on them such as:
"You don't have enough time for me any more"
In other words:
"I want you there to answer my calls and pick me up from parties and listen to my endless complaints and moaning about my boyfriends"
or
"You don't need all that help, just be your self and one day you will find a girl who will love you back"
In other words:
'Please carry on being Mr Nice guy, who I will never want to sleep with, and hopefully will meet someone way after I have settled down with a husband and kids'.
or
"You should take my advice, NOT an experts advice"
In other words:
"Listen to my vague and sweet advice which has got you nowhere so far"
or
"I will introduce to some really lovely girls who will think you are great!"
In other words:
"I will introduce as my 'nice' friend to girls who are also 'nice' but not sexy or amazing"
Sadly friends with, what seem to have 'well meaning' intentions can be a negative influence in your life and your personal development rather than a positive one, which they should be!
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